Personal Development For Smart People

Personal Development For Smart People: PRINCIPLE ONE – TRUTH

If you want to improve yourself and your life you need to be honest with yourself. You have to be able to recognize what the problem is (what you like to change) so that you can start working on that.
Perception is a very important part of this. If you don’t know what is wrong in your life (or you don’t admit it) you cant change it. You have to be aware of all areas of your life. Notice what is happening, what you like and what you don’t and then start working on it. Good questions to ask yourself are: how do I feel about this? Is this working for me? What part needs improvement?…
Predictions – the mind is constantly creating new predictions based on previous events. Whenever you encounter something new the mind creates new neural connections. If you do the same things over and over again it will atrophy because you are not challenging it. New things you can try: read a book in an unfamiliar subject, learn to play an instrument, visit a new place, talk to people that you’ve never talked to…
Accuracy – the more experience you have, the more accurate your predictions will be. However, the mind can and will over-generalize. Ex. You’ve had a few bad dates and your mind tells you that dating is bad so you stop dating. But in this way you cant correct the false thinking. Because to fix it you need to have positive dating experience and you cant have that unless you are dating.
Self-awareness – you need to be aware of your strengths, weaknesses, emotions, thoughts, talents, attachments, desires, instincts, habits… so that you can make a more accurate prediction. Only take big decisions when you come from a higher state of mind (alert, clear headed, intelligent)
There are certain things that can block you from seeing the truth. Media, sociality, addictions, emotions (negative emotions can block your clear view), false beliefs, immaturity (u mature with experience), short-term gains.
Journaling is a great way to catch your true thoughts and feelings and get a fresh perspective on the things in your life. It is also a great way to brainstorm new ideas.

Personal Development For Smart People: PRINCIPLE TWO – LOVE

Whenever you love someone or something the best thing to do is go straight for it.
You achieve love by creating a connection with that person, and you create a connection by giving her your attention and finding a common ground through communication. You first start by talking about the common interests and then move towards your different preferences.
Whatever you think or feel about a certain person or relationship, is not necessarily the way they feel about it. Its all in your head. However, the outside relationships that you have reflect the relationship that you have with yourself. Ex. If you have a respectful relationship with yourself you will have respectful relationships with others as well.

Personal Development For Smart People: PRINCIPLE THREE – POWER

Most people associate power with corrupt and negative things. But power can be positive when it is used to do good things. Good people need power otherwise bad people will take advantage of them.
Responsibility is a very important part if you want to achieve any goal. You need to realize that its only your responsibility whether something gets done that leads you closer to your goal. Its your dream and no one else is responsible for it.
Desire is the fuel of power. You need to find the goal that sets you on fire and pursue it.
Self-determination means that it is your right to choose what you want to do and where you want to go. You do not need to justify yourself to anyone for what you want.
Focus on the present because that is where you are and that is where the true power is. ask yourself what do I need to do now, so that I can get closer to my goals. Your goals should fuel you with energy.
Effort is taking the action and doing what needs to be done in order to get what you want to get.
Self-discipline is the willingness to do what needs to be done. Sometimes you wont have the motivation to do the right thing, but self-discipline will help you do it. Motivation starts the race, but self-discipline ultimately crosses the finish line.
The first hour of the day is the most important. how you spend this hour is how your day will go. So do something meaningful and fulfilling. Ex. Read, eat, exercise …
Set daily goals for your work. At first you can start small, like dong 30 minutes of work and then increase gradually.
Always do the hardest thing first. That way you will not procrastinate and you will finish much faster.
Rest is also important. Just as in bodybuilding.

Personal Development For Smart People: SECONDARY PRINCIPLES

Personal Development For Smart People: ONENESS – is a combination of truth plus love. LOVE is choosing to connect, TRUTH is knowing you are connected.
Empathy – you feel both the happiness and the sadness of the other person,
Compassion –loving actions don’t require willpower ,
Honesty – speak from the heart,
fairness – acting in a way that takes into account both of you as well as the relationship,
contribution (1+1=3) ,
unity – you cant make decisions based on your needs only, you need to consider the bigger picture
you can increases oneness by spending time in nature, physical touch with your loved one, imagining that you are one with your loved one.

Personal Development For Smart People: AUTHORITY – is the combination of power and truth. Truth without power has no effect. Power without truth is ruthlessness. Authority is taking charge of your life, knowing that it is your responsibility, and fighting for what is right.
Command – take responsibility, take charge.
Effectiveness – taking the action that is necessary so that you can achieve your goal.
Persistence – one of the most important traits. You cant stop until you achieve what you want to achieve. You cant let failure and rejections to discourage you. Learn from your failures.
Confidence – You cant expect to be competent the very first time that you try something new, but you need to have confidence that over time you will get better at it, with practice.
Significance – figure out what is really important in your life and then take action accordingly. There are things that seem important or urgent but will yield little or no results. So focus on what really matters.

Personal Development For Smart People: COURAGE – the combination of love and power. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.
Heart – it’s the connection to your core self. When you take action that comes from the heart you have the courage to see it through. Before you make a decision ask yourself: does this path have a heart? If the answer s no, ask yourself: where is the path with a heart? This is the path that will make you feel fulfilled.
Initiative – taking the action that is necessary. Its better to take action than to live with the regret. Sometimes it takes years to recover from the fear and/or the regret, but it takes a few moments to recover from the discomfort of courage and it yields the results that you need.
Directness – be straight-forward when trying to get what you want. Be honest and direct but don’t be pushy and aggressive. If they reject you just accept it and move on. It is their point of view, so don’t take it personally.
Honor – recognizes that the service for the person you care and the service for you is the same thing. When you are driven by honor, you take action because you care and that action comes from love, courage and truth.
You can increase your courage by dividing one big, scary thing into small chunks and doing them one at a time. You can also educate yourself on that topic, because most of the time fear comes from ignorance. Another way is to commit to doing the thing.

Personal Development For Smart People: INTELLIGENCE – is the result of love, truth and power. When you act according to these principles you always take actions that are good for you and the others.
authenticity – always be yourself, no matter if you are talking to a friend or a foe. Always stand for what you believe and speak your truth. Not everyone has to like you. That’s ok.
Creative self-expression – you need to find a way to express yourself creatively.
Grow – every single day in every single way.
Flow – this doesn’t mean that your life becomes effortless, but that your efforts are well positioned to produce the desired results.
The 30-day trial technique – if you want to break a habit or start a new one, just start doing it for 30 days only (or less depending on your level of discipline). This way its not overwhelming and you still get the benefits. Plus at the end you would already have created a new habit so most likely you will stick to it for much longer.
(30-day free trial or 7-day free trial is a good method for selling also. you give the client a chance to taste what you offer, so you increase the chance of them buying your product because they already got used to it.)
Career and truth – finding the right medium (news channel)to convey your message
Career and love – finding the right message to convey (what is your purpose)
Career and power – don’t settle for anything less than what you want
Career and oneness – your career choice affect everyone else as well.
Career and authority – be the leader not the grunt. Demonstrate focus, effort and discipline in the work that needs to be done.
Career and courage – what career does your heart bring you to? Take calculated risks, because even if you lose, at least you will learn and the next you gonna have more experience and you will increase the chances o success.
Career and intelligence – find something that you love doing, but also something that can contribute to the world and helps you meet your needs.
Money and truth – money is good when its put to good use. Ex. Growth, education, food, helping…
Money and love – you need to adopt the contributor mindset. This means that you need to focus on adding more value and the money will eventually increase.
Money and oneness – your work should be aligned with the personal value as well as the social value.
Money and authority – you are responsible for your income. If you want to earn more money you need to improve your skills, and for this you need to invest the time and the money necessary .
Money and courage – have the courage to ask for what you are worth it.
Health – when we are sick all we want to do is get well, but when we are of good health we don’t even notice our body.
Health and truth – look at yourself in the mirror and be honest with yourself. What d you see? What do you like? What do you dislike? How will your health be if you continue doing what you are doing?
Relationships and truth – ask yourself: am I satisfied with this? If I continue like this what will happen? Always be honest with your partner. If something is bothering you, tell her. Keep in mind that all relationships end. Either in separation or loss, but they end.
When your primary communication channel is truth you tend to exchange a lot of information and be curious about things. When it is love you connect through expressing affection and empathy (also you will talk about anything and everything just to keep the connection there). When power – you tend to encourage each other to pursue your dreams.
Relationships and power – if you are in an abusive relationship you have to gather the courage to leave, because if you stay you are only abusing yourself. So leave, even if its very hard on you because in time you will heal and you will be much stronger because you wont be wasting your energy on the wrong person anymore.
Relationships and oneness – even when you are in a committed relationship, you ( and your partner) need to connect with other people (in a friendly way). Otherwise you will end up suffocating each other.
If a person rejects you it means that you are incompatible anyway so you don’t lose by being rejected, but you get to know where you stand with that person and not live in the dark.
Relationships and authority – its up to you to improve your social skills. You can do this by reading books or hiring a mentor. However, the best thing to do is to practice in real life and get a lot of experience (ex. Start with: today smile at ten people you don’t know).
Everyone perceives reality differently. Everything that you encounter is processed by your brain and depending on the development of your brain is how you will perceive reality.